Get A Next Date, Part 1
Follow these sixteen tips to maximize your chances of earning yourself a next date.
Most of us are busy people. Work, social gatherings and other responsibilities keep us busy so it's easy to neglect your love life when your mind is focused on other things. So, what do you do when you want to meet new people but you can't find the time to fit in your schedule? Try speed dating!
Everyone has their own idea on what speed dating is. There are so many myths and stigmas out there attached to these types of events but the truth is, speed dating is one of the most effective ways to meet new people for dating. As a matchmaker, I often suggest that my clients invest in speed dating and here's why:
The key to successfully securing dates is exposure. Even if you have limited time to spare, speed dating only requires an investment of two hours and it allows the opportunity to meet and connect with 10 plus singles who have all come to the event with the purpose of getting to know you. The more people you meet, the more of an opportunity you will have to socialize, practice your dating skills and possibly connect with someone who is a perfect match for you.
Whether your needs are casual or more serious, speed dating is definitely something all singles should employ on their quest to find connection with a special someone.
So, if you're interested in exploring what speed dating can do for your love life, here are some top tips to make sure you get the most out of the experience.
1. Research Your Options There are many companies out there that organize speed dating events and all of them operate differently. Before you select, make sure you have done your research so you can find the event that will be right for you.
You can Google "speed dating" in your area and see what those companies have to offer. Pay attention to the types of events they throw. Look at things like target age ranges, niche specifics or themes. Also, don't be afraid to contact your event hosts and ask questions if you need additional information. Most will not mind answering any questions you may have about their process. This will help you get an idea as to what you should expect.
2. Dress Up Yes, speed dating is a group event but it doesn't mean that it's not an actual date. It's really like having about 20-30 first dates and you should definitely dress appropriately to make the ultimate first impressions.
I always tell my clients that their clothes should make them feel like they are the hottest person in the singles market and it's true. If you are wearing something that makes you feel attractive, you will naturally exude confidence. Others will recognize it and will find your confidence attractive.
3. Show Up Early Try to show up at least 20-30 minutes earlier than the event start time. This will give you some time to register, get familiar with the venue and mingle around. This is also perfect opportunity for you to get to know the event hosts and ask questions.
Building a relationship with your event hosts can be of huge value if you are truly on the hunt for a new relationship. If your hosts know the type of person you are looking for, we may be able to point you in the right direction by initiating pre-event introductions with other participants.
4. Reset Yourself Before Each Mini-Date Just like any date, you should go in with an open mind and make an effort. Try not to let the events of the last date, good or bad, influence the direction of the next one. Give your attention to your current date and use it as an opportunity to engage each other and get a feel for them. Base your level of attraction on your date's presentation.
5. Note Your Potential Matches This is how the matches are made. Make sure you note the correct identifying info on your match card.
If there is the slightest bit of interest in a date, I would make note of them so you can connect just in case they happen to pick you too.
Your matches will be delivered via email within a 2-24 hour period so you want to make sure you list best method for them to contact you when registering.
6. Do Evaluate Your Performance
Didn’t score any connections? You need to do something different. It’s all about confidence and charm. Work on asking great speed-dating questions, mischievous teasing and a couple of good stories. If you haven’t got anything interesting to say, go out and sky dive, take a class, learn a language, go to a concert. Got some numbers? What worked on those girls? Also, think about the ladies you liked — what made them stand out? Are they qualities you could work on for yourself? The great thing about speed dating is that it’s a universal equalizer. It’s usually quite dark, so looks are less important. Everyone has the same amount of time, and you’ll meet all the women the other guys will. Be prepared. Smile and make her feel good.
7. Don’t Try To Track Her Down
If you didn’t get a call, it’s because she wasn’t interested. Don’t even think about trying to find her online or hanging out near her workplace. Forget her. Polish your strategy and go back another time.
8. Do Say Goodbye Properly
Almost every guy I met at speed dating stopped mid-sentence and clumsily shuffled off to the next table when they were told their time was up. You don’t need to go in for a hug or anything, but be sure to let her finish what she was saying, look her in the eye and say how very nice it was to meet her. Hold the eye contact for a second, go for a slight nod and a half-smile, and then move on without a backward glance.
Check out Part 2 for the next 8 vital tips to help you in your quest!
